Words from Desmond Tutu to Guide Us in 2022
“I wish I could shut up, but I can’t, and I won’t.”

“Don’t raise your voice. Improve your argument.”
“We need to stop just pulling people out of the river. We need to go upstream and find out why they’re falling in.”
“Hope is being able to see that there is light despite all of the darkness.”
“Without forgiveness, there’s no future.”
“Do your little bit of good where you are; it’s those little bits of good put together that overwhelm the world.”
With gratitude for the life of Archbishop Tutu and all those who refuse to remain silent. And, our best wishes and highest hopes for your success in 2022.
Roger and Kevin
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Thank you for these compelling quotes, Roger and Kevin. May I add one by Mark Twain: “Let us live so that when we come to die even the undertaker will be sorry.”
Each of us must help in making the kinds of differences which must be made. We’ve no time to lose.